The Reality of Internet Blogging

There’s a term that’s often used to describe sites like SingleBlackMale, VerySmartBros, This Is Your Conscience, and Until I Get Married. We all know it, and denying it would be disingenuous. Let’s face facts: most blogs on the internet are written by women, as most online readers are women. Statistics show that around 70% of the readership on sex and relationship blogs are women. This is a standard across the industry, not just on specific sites.

Women often feel marginalized in society, with their voices undervalued in public. Despite societal progress, many still believe women should be seen and not heard. Blogs provide a personal soundboard for women’s thoughts, free from male interruption. However, many blogs fail to gain traction because the audience prioritizes male perspectives. Sex sells, but a double standard exists: a man discussing sex is seen as natural, while a woman is labeled negatively. Even so, women who discuss sex attract more attention than those who don’t.

Misandry in Blogging

So how do some popular female bloggers who aren’t discussing sex maintain large readerships? They often do so by criticizing men, a phenomenon known as misandry. These bloggers rarely highlight successful men; instead, they focus on negative traits. In contrast, male bloggers are careful to specify when they critique certain types of women to avoid generalizing all women. This discrepancy is due to what I call the “Domestic Violence Effect”: men cannot attack women without backlash, whereas women are expected to withstand criticism without responding in kind.

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Identifying Gender Bias

Here are a few signs of misandry that stand out:

Bashing Men After Opting Out of Dating Them

Some female bloggers who no longer date men still critique them heavily. For instance, I follow several female writers on Twitter who frequently bash men or defend women despite obvious faults. Many of these women are lesbians, bisexual, or single and uninterested in dating men, yet they continue to criticize men extensively. It’s hard to respect someone who disparages a group they’re no longer interested in engaging with.

Blind Defense of Women in the Face of Malfeasance

Many women defend other women’s poor decisions by blaming men. For example, if a woman gets pregnant by a man who has moved on, some women will still blame the man. This pattern of shifting blame is pervasive and unfair.

Using Terms Like “Male Privilege” to Deflect Gender Bias

Women often use terms like “male privilege” to justify their criticisms of men. If a man attributes a woman’s job success to gender quotas, he’s criticized. But if a woman attributes a man’s job retention to male privilege, it’s seen as valid. This double standard extends to personal preferences and other areas, highlighting an inconsistency in how criticisms are received based on gender.

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The Nature of Gender Bias

Misandry means hating or disliking men. Many women deny being misandrist because they love men and want to be with them. However, love and hate are closely linked emotions. Admitting to harboring negative feelings towards men, even if they also love them, is the first step towards addressing this bias and finding common ground.

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