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2. The motivation for your relationship is wrong

“I certainly would not want to be married to somebody that can’t win championships. If you’re sacrificing time away from my family and myself for the benefit of winning championships, then winning a championship should happen every single year.” – Vanessa Bryant

I love Vanessa to death. I consider her like a sister-in-law since her husband and myself are such good friends. However, that’s crazy. She’s not alone though. There’s tons of people who date for all the wrong reasons. The most common is dating someone because of their personal goals and ambition in life. It’s as if you stick with them, you’ll reap some benefit of staying the course. I don’t think anyone can date someone because they’re going to be a lawyer, they’ve got a shot at the NFL, or one day she might be a hit singer. That’s stupid. The motivation for a relationship should be built out of a mutual attraction to each other, emotionally and romantically.