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What would you do if you won ten million dollars?

Seems like such a silly question doesn’t it? At the very least, it’s a hypothetical that’ll make you yearn for better days, where all you have to do is log into your bank account to turn a sh*tty day into a pot of gold. But what if I told you that such a simple question could be a great conversation starter between you and your (future) significant other? I know I’m right. Why? Because I had the discussion a couple weeks ago after Thanksgiving.

I was driving back from upstate New York with Boobookins, turkey in gastrointestinal tow. She wasn’t in the mood to hear the fat man grunt and talk about drug dealing and eating lobster bisque. I wasn’t in the mood for 808 and heart-warming. There’s a time and place for everything. So we talked. And talked. And talked.

One of the common themes in our conversations is the quest for freedom. For me, that means pursuing my dream career and never having money as an obstacle. For her, that means becoming an accomplished author, running an artsy business and traveling the world. We both know what we need to flip these dreams into reality. We could also use a bit more cash.

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Can’t we all though?

That’s where the lottery came in:

Me: I wish I hit the lottery for ten mil. I can’t keep working like this. Sometimes it feels like a slave ship.

Her: You’re stupid. What would you do with the money?

Pay off my credit card and student loans. Pay rent through the end of the lease and get the hell out of dodge. Quit my job. Become a career coach. Write some inspirational tale. Eat an abundant amount of lobster and crab legs. Put on weight and get paid to lose it.

What about family and friends?

Well, momma don’t want a house, so she would get a luxury apartment and whatever else she wanted. I’d help my boys chasing the rap dream. Maybe start a scholarship fund for kids that can’t read good. 

What about me?

I’d give you 25k.

Out of ten mil though?

Giving someone a lot of money could be like getting them hooked on crack. I can’t have you hooked on crack.

You’re selfish.

No, I’m cautious. I’m doing it for you girl. I’m doing it for you! I know you’ve been sitting in the bleachers at the gym, but I just don’t believe in doling out beacoup amounts of cash just because I have it. Besides, I’d want to see how you handled the money. I never said that’s all you’d get for life.

Alright, I was about to say. Anyway, what about if you were about to propose and then hit the lotto?

I’d go to LinkedIn and find a lawyer friend from college. You’d still be coming to the gym, but with terms.

Where the conversation went isn’t as important as the discussion it started. I’m still here, so I lived through it. Whether you’re out on one of the first dates or been together for a while, the light-hearted question is worth bringing up. You never know. You may get answers to questions you didn’t even have to ask.

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So, what would you do if you hit the lotto today? Would it change the way you approach current or future relationships? Have you had this silly conversation with a significant other before? If so, what type of answers did it yield? Let’s have some fun with this one.