4: Trust Not Who a Man Says He Is, But Instead, Who You Know Him To Be.

When dealing with other men, be it in business or in friendship, trust is extremely important. Putting your trust in the wrong person can have disastrous implications. Instead of giving your trust freely, focus your energy on getting to know people thoroughly. It’s much easier to do business with a man you know you can’t trust than it is to do business with a man you don’t know at all. Liars will lie and if you can trust that man will lie, you should be able to predict their actions and manage the relationship. If you can’t get a good grasp of who a guy is, if he’s elusive and good at hiding his true nature–avoid him–especially in business.

3: Never Trust A Man Whose First Response Is Always Emotional.

No man is stone. Few of us are capable of remaining completely detached from our feelings. It’s not a healthy way to live. That said, there are men you will come across who are completely incapable of controlling their emotional responses to situations they find themselves in. The unpredictability of human emotions makes it impossible to trust these dudes. There comes times in the lives of every man where you have to be able to put emotion aside and make decisions based on logic–in those moments overly emotional men are absolutely useless. Think about Sonny from the Godfather. He could have been a great Don. He had all the requisite character traits for leading the family. He just couldn’t control his temper and it was his temper that got him killed.

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2: Avoid Men Who Spend Too Much Time Chasing Women.

There will come a time in your life when scheming on the lady parts of women is pretty high on your list of things to do. It happens. But no matter what, it should never be your top priority and as you get older you’ll come to realize that chasing only begets more chasing. When you’re young you’ll feel like p**** is a commodity and you’ll respect the man capable of acquiring that commodity in abundance. But as you get older you’ll come to realize that while finding a woman who will spread her legs for you is easy; finding someone you can trust to be your partner for the rest of your life is much more difficult. If you focus your interaction with women on the latter, you’ll fall into more than enough of the former along the way to quench any thirst you might have. You will know this and understand this, but the same cannot be said for all the men you’ll come to know. Some men will dedicate their lives to chasing women. It’ll be a constant distraction to their progress and overall life success, they’ll equate everything to how many women they’ve been with, and they’ll judge the masculinity of others by their ability to get women. If you surround yourself with these types of men you’ll find their addiction is contagious. You’ll also find that they generally have poor reputations amongst those who know them; if you spend too much time with them, their reputation will eventually become your reputation.

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1. Surround Yourself With Men Who Inspire You, Not Men Who Are Inspired By You.

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If you are the smartest, most successful, most influential man in your network, you need a new network. This doesn’t mean you change your set of friends as you mature in life or advance yourself professionally, but it does mean you need to continue to put yourself in circles of people who push you to grow and be better. If you’re constantly the source of inspiration for those around you, you’ll come to a point where you realize you’re no longer growing.

It’s not about being super competitive or ‘keeping up with the jones’ it’s just about making sure that your circle of friends are the kind of people that are going to help you reach your goals. At some point in your life, you may find yourself distant from someone you thought you’d always be close to. That’s not a bad thing. Doesn’t mean you love them any less, and it doesn’t mean y’all aren’t friends anymore. Some people grow, some people don’t. That’s life.

That’s it, these were a few of the things I planned on passing to my son – before I actually had one. As a new father, I still feel good about a lot of this advice. There are a few things I’d add, couple things I’d alter, but overall it’s really interesting to read these thoughts now while looking at my newborn son.

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Fellas, what are some of the things you’ve learned about men that you’d pass on to your boy. Ladies, what about you all, what are the some things you’ve learned about men through your interactions that you think would be valuable for your son? With the little guy here, I’m gonna take a little SBM paternity leave. I’ll drop a post or two when I can. Should you not hear from me for a while… you already know it’s because I’m putting to good use these words of wisdom I always leave you all with:

stay low and keep firing.