**the following is a cautionary tale**

The other day, I was talking to a guy who said he’s been “off his game” lately.  I wasn’t quite sure what he was talking about at first, but the more he talked, I started to understand where his story was going.  One of the first rules of working we learn is that we should *never* let our personal issues affect our job performance.  After listening to what my coworker had to share, that isn’t always possible.

See, ol’ boy and his wife are expecting another child.  This isn’t necessarily cause for concern because people receive that kind of news everyday.  The part that is cause for concern is he’s expecting another kid with another woman as well.  If you’re like me, the first thing I thought was, “…the hell?  How is that possible?  I mean, I know how, but still…”

All he could do was throw his hands up, and look off like he didn’t know how he got where he was, or what he was going. Luckily, I stay with a poker face. While looking for the right words to tell him, I was thinking how sloppy, and careless, he had to be to find himself in the present situation.

This isn’t a “being judgmental” situation, either.  Whatever actions and decisions people make are just that, theirs.  I asked him how he got into it, how long had he known about the pregnancy, and what he was going to do.  The first thing he told me was how the other woman lived in his building.  Before I could point out the obvious, he knew the first mistake he made was choosing a woman in close proximity to his home.  His second mistake was having unprotected sex with the woman.  I asked him if this other woman was currently in a relationship.  To his knowledge, she was, but hadn’t been having sex for a couple of months, at least according to her.

See Also:  Breaking Old Habits

See the pattern of carelessness?

However his situation plays out, there’s a chance he’ll be living a double life at best, and lose his family at the worst.  Yet, when a attractive woman walks by, he seems to forget his dilemma and prepares laying the groundwork for the same issue to happen again.  It makes me wonder, do he, and other serial cheaters ever get tired of it?

The initial answer is “probably not”.  The stress of trying to keep one person happy is enough for most.  Multiply that by another person, with their quirks, personality, feelings, likes and dislikes, and it seems continuously cheating isn’t worth the stress.  Sure, most men people swear they don’t develop feelings based on sexing someone.  As a man, I’ll say that  that’s bull.  The majority of men are affected by it because we’re not all a$$*****s.  Nevertheless, while I won’t say cheating is harmless.  I will say if you, or anybody else plans on doing it, be smart.


Are you, or do you know people have been a sloppy cheater?  Do ya have any war stories?