Men get friend zoned for one reason and one reason only: they’re too available. When you’re friend-zoned by someone, they know that no matter what, they can always depend on you as a plan B if all of their other less available options don’t work out. Whether we like it or not, that’s just the way it is for both men and women. How can we fix this? By not being so predictable and available.
Us women pretty much know within the first few minutes to what extent we’ll allow our future interactions with a man to go. You are usually friend-zoned within the first few minutes of meeting based on whether we feel that spark of attraction or not. And if we do feel that spark, we know whether you’ll be a friend or a lover based on how intense that spark is and how long it lasts. So wouldn’t it make sense for a man to use those first few minutes to their advantage by learning how to get control of that spark?
In technical terms, this spark is simply a spike in adrenaline that most people get when they connect eyes with someone that they’re physically attracted to. In our initial interactions with a new potential love interest, some women attempt to control that spark by being flirtatiously elusive and playing hard to get. Men can perform an equally effective technique: playing hard to impress.
The secret behind the “hard to impress” approach is that after getting that initial, reflexive adrenaline spike out of her, you find a way to keep the intensity and duration of that spike heightened. By doing this, you’re pretty much guaranteeing yourself a spot far away from the friend zone. You’re just simply relying on another way aside from pure mutual attraction to keep her adrenaline spiked for a longer period of time. This will result in her feeling a more intense spark for you.
The idea behind this technique was vaguely alluded to in my last two articles, How To Turn Her On and How To Tell If A Man Is Bad In Bed Using Social Media where I explained that women appreciate strength of character and are most attracted to men that aren’t overly swayed by superficiality. A man that is difficult to impress is very rare in this age of excessive thirst. Therefore, a man that is hard to impress is a novelty for many women. It is a rare commodity, very refreshing, and very intriguing. A man that is hard to impress stands a notch above the rest in the eyes of women.
So the question is, how could a man go about being hard to impress?
Well, it’s pretty self-explanatory. As I already explained, you do this by not being overly predictable or overly excitable.
Studies show that being in an unpredictable situation causes everyone’s adrenaline to rise and to feel those all too familiar butterflies in the stomach. These are the same butterflies we feel when we really spark with someone. You can use this information as a cheat into standing out from the crowd and in influencing a woman’s psyche. All you have to do is occasionally find ways to be slightly unpredictable while pursuing women.
Just like men, women enjoy finding a rare prize and capturing it. Women enjoy the chase just as much as men, only in a different way. We enjoy the control that we feel by looking appealing and reeling a guy in with our feminine wiles. We find that whole process of pursuing and being pursued so much more stimulating when we find someone that isn’t thirsty or easily impressed by whomever, wherever but instead shows that he has high and discriminating standards.
In Part 2 of this article, we will check out a scenario where a man could show that he is hard to impress and the effect that this technique has on women. Look out for it next week.