When you commit to someone, whether as a monogamous relationship or eventual marriage, there can be a sense of apprehension. You feel you are a good judge of character, but you’ve made mistakes before. There is no manual that can dictate a fool proof way to know if a mate is right for you, so you have to trust your instincts and experiences to guide you. Brie Schwartz over at MSN lifestyle gave an account of how she knows her and her husband belong together. Check out a few of her points below:

1. I tell him I don’t need him and he ignores me.

There have been countless occasions when I’’ve assured my husband I could handle situations without any of his help, —ranging from minor things, like pulling heavy dishes out of the oven (I’’m a tad accident-prone) to the bigger events, like visiting my mom in the hospital when she took three too many painkillers. Sure, I would have been fine on my own, but knowing that I had his support, whether I thought I needed it or not, made all the difference. In a solid relationship, you see through the other person’’s BS when they’re trying to be tough.

2. We have compatible insecurities.

Everyone is a little bit insecure. I think someone famous once said that. But you know you’re right for each other when you find someone with equal but opposite anxieties. My husband gets embarrassed when I’’m too outspoken, and I encourage him to stand up for himself more. Together, we make a semi-normal person.

3. We can turn anything into a date.

Outings should not be restricted to dinners at new restaurants. Putting all of the emphasis on making good conversation is just too much pressure for a guy you’’ve been texting all day. What’’s left to say by the time the appetizer comes? That’s why, whenever possible, we try to think of silly, free things to do that focus the attention on simply being together. Last weekend, for instance, we scoured New York City searching for giant Easter eggs. Yes, we were the only adults on the hunt, but I also think we had the most fun.

These are definitely good points here. These speak more towards being in tune with your partner, keeping it real, keeping it fresh, and genuinely enjoying one another! What a novel idea, huh? I believe that if you hve this level of comfort, you should be set.

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Check out the rest of the ways you and your mate belong together over HERE AT MSN LIFESTYLE.

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