How do you know you’re ready for a new relationship? 

Is it a feeling? 

Is it perfect timing? 

Do you just know?

Honestly, feelings, time and the inexplicable are not reliable indicators that you’re ready for a new relationship.

Sure, you may have made decisions in the past based on one or all of them, but it doesn’t mean they led you to make the right decisions.


Simply put, feelings, time and the inexplicable are all surface level indicators and, in many cases, they are temporary.

You can feel one way today and the polar opposite tomorrow.

If the timing is “perfect” right now, what does that make it a second from now, a minute from now or even an hour from now?

What exactly is it that we “know” and why can’t we clearly explain it?

Deciding whether or not to enter into a relationship requires time, thought and exploration beyond the surface and all the way to the root.

What’s the root?

You’re the root.

Your present.

Your past.

Your pain.

Your joy.

Your baggage.

Your memories.

You are the root.

As you explore the root, you must develop love, peace and patience.

Love for your Creator, yourself and others.

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Peace within yourself and with all that you’ve endured throughout your life.

Patience to not rush the process or your journey.

Relationships and companionship are both remarkable, but I truly believe we limit them, others and ourselves when we enter into them without exercising wisdom.

Wisdom tells us to slow down, take time for ourselves, heal completely, think twice and don’t act irrationally.

It’s time that we listen.

Yes, we desire a relationship and we may even be ready for one, but don’t we owe it to ourselves, and our potential new partner, to at least ask ourselves a few questions before entering into a new relationship?

Personally, I think that’s the least we can do.

What do you think? 

Have you ever invested time to ask yourself a few questions before entering into a new relationship? 

How do you know when you’re ready to enter into a new relationship? 

What things do you consider before making that decision? 

If you’re interested, I would like to provide you with a FREE copy of my 10 Questions You MUST Answer Before Entering Into a New Relationship worksheet. Get yours now by clicking here. 

Written by: Jay Mayo

Jay Mayo’s Bio:

Jay Mayo is a man on GOD’S mission to help you exercise your Right to R.EA.L. Love, embrace your singleness and prepare you to develop healthy relationships that will last! If you’re interested, come join the R.E.A.L. Lover community at Also, feel free to contact Jay on Twitter @iamJayMayo.