This past weekend I was able to watch Chris Rock’s “Kill The Messenger” stand up special again.

If you’ve followed my writing you know that I gain a lot of inspiration from stand up acts. We laugh at most jokes because we relate. Kill The Messenger is one joint that grew on me over time. My favorite bit in that stand up was Chris’ bit on relationships.

There’s a part where Chris says “Men cannot go backwards sexually and women cannot go backwards in lifestyle.” In regards to men not being able to go backwards sexually, I laughed. Check out the clip below of the whole bit. Just a friendly disclaimer, it’s NSFW. So if you’re in the office throw some headphones on.

Chris Rock tells the ladies to blame their man’s exes for setting the bar too high in the bedroom. As I can look back on my past with women, I certainly relate. I think all guys relate. There are some amazing women that we have dealt with that simply knocked our socks off. I mean they knocked them off and they flew to the other side of the room. Some women are a hard act to follow and there might be a pun in there somewhere.

At the same token, I’m sure many women can relate as well. There are some men in your past whose performances could never be duplicated. You might still think of how he used to do that “thing” from time to time. It’s okay, we all reminisce, let’s not front. But after all of those amazing moments things still didn’t last. Now that parties move on, how can your new interest measure up?

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Most people would be inclined to say that communication is key.

That may very well be true, but that’s only half of the story. You can always tell someone what you want and how you want it. That person still has the capacity to not deliver. Conversely, someone might do things even better than your past lover.

There’s no real manual to get someone new to measure up to your exes performance.

As humans we will hold anyone to some satisfactory level in the bedroom. Whether it be foreplay, oral, or intercourse, everyone has standards. It might be unfair to compare new people to your exes in bed. I know that I’m guilty of it from time to time. I know some ladies are as well. Some people we have dealt with in our lives are just great at some special things. We would be lying if we said it was easy to let go.

So let’s talk about it, can men go backwards sexually after a woman has put it down crazy? Do you ladies have the same experience of holding new boos to exes sexual standards? Have recent loves exceeded the performances of your exes? Do you wish there were certain skills your new joint has that an ex had? Let’s have some fun, let’s talk about it.

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DamnPops is a writer and podcaster on the staff at SBM: “I’m not a biter, I’m a writer for myself and others. ” Follow me on Twitter @DamnPOPS and @NegroPPodcast . Also, subscribe on iTunes to the Negro Please Podcast and visit our website here!