Chivalry and the “old school way” of dating are hot topics here at There are a lot of women lurking in the comments section who yearn for the old school chivalry (which is dead) that used to be so prevalent, including traditions like the bride’s dowry. They want to reminisce …

Whatever Happened to a Dowry?

Well … SBM wants to live in the times of yore too!

Whatever happened to a Dowry?

The good people at Merriam-Webster tell me that a dowry is:

2: the money, goods, or estate that a woman brings to her husband in marriage
3: a gift of money or property by a man to or for his bride

Shhhhheeeeeeeeeeeetttttttttttttttttttt!  Sign me up!!!!!

From what I gather, the family would pay the husband a price for taking their child off their hands, known as the bride’s dowry. They essentially would pay him for having to feed, care, and clothe another individual for the rest of their life. While things have changed a lot nowadays and women are very capable of contributing to the household now, shouldn’t we still receive some compensation for actually having to settle down? Can I get a little change for having to watch Desperate Housewives now? Shouldn’t someone compensate me for having to watch romantic comedies that I hate so dearly? What about admitting I’m wrong when I’m not? It’s only fair … right …

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The Bride’s Parents and Wedding Costs

Another tradition I don’t feel is commonly practiced goes into paying the wedding.  At we see what the Bride’s Parents take care of:

The Bride’s Dowry typically pays for:
The costs of the reception.
The Bride’s Wedding attire/trousseau
Invitations, announcements, thank you notes
The seating assignment chart, napkins and mailing costs
Ceremony costs
Bridesmaids, flower girl, ring bearer flowers and accessories
Transportation for bridal party on Wedding day from ceremony to reception.
All gratuities for all services: parking, security
Bridesmaid luncheon

Since no man plans their wedding … seems fair … right?

Where is the Bride’s Dowry Today?

So … I ask ya’ll … good people of … WTF happened to the Bride’s Dowry?!?!?  Can a brotha get paid for getting married!!!!!!!!!!

P.S. ..I’m just messing with ya’ll…..  Finding my Future Nubian Princess and finally being completed by someone is payment enough.  But best believe … if they’re offering … I’m taking!

P.S.S.  I am not trying to pay for my wedding though.  F*** that … her parents can bang that one out.  Mine got the honeymoon!