**Since yesterday’s discussion turned into something…interesting, I figured I’d provide a post for the ladies written by my homegirl Ms. Jenkins. Enjoy. -Slim**

Slim and Sir Steele hit us with a list of some things women don’t understand about men. As promised, I have come up with a list of some things men just don’t get about women. Pull up a chair and enjoy.

Just look at him...

Just look at him...

1. We know you love us and think we are beautiful, but we need to hear it anyway.

We understand that you are not emotionally expressive because you don’t want to look like a parfait emo teddy bear. And we know that we “shouldn’t” need reinforcement or encouragement if we have our ish together. We aren’t saying that we need to be told every 5 minutes that you miss us, love us or are thinking about us. But you need to remember to say those things anyway. When a woman has a man in her life, she shouldn’t have to “just know” how he feels about her without some regular expressions of affection or thoughtfulness. It lets us know you don’t take us or the relationship for granted. Plus it feels nice. Women need to feel nice and attended to. Mess around and she’ll find someone else to give her the attention she wants.

2. “That’s it. Right there.” means exactly that.

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Slim and RCLS brought up this point and it immediately resonated with me. When she says “Don’t move,” or “Just like that,” dammit she means it. I have missed too many Os because dude wanted to get creative and start thinking independently at the wrong moment. All it takes is 1 second for the O to run away. Maybe she’ll return soon, but one can never be too sure. Please fellas, follow her directions. Now is not the time to wonder if she meant what she said. Along the same lines…

3. Not all of us like to be held right after the big O.

Men seem to have this idea that all women like to be held right after the big One. Not true. Some of us need a couple minutes before we get back in the game. If you did it right, she’s probably going through a lot after yall found the O. She is trying to catch her breath, regain the feeling in her knees, and wants make sure what she experienced was real. So don’t feel pressured to hug her or caress her right away. Whilst you wait, maybe you should offer her a sandwich. We like those too.

4. Yes we do love shopping that much.

It doesn’t really matter what we are shopping for. If we are in Target, Ann Taylor or BCBG, we will be taking our time. Yes, I know I bought Scotts last time, but what if Charmin Ultra has something new to offer? So what she tried on 4 dresses and 2 suits. She needs to try on this last one just in case it looks better than the others. And so what if she gets pissed and doesn’t buy anything? She needed to know that she exhausted all of her options.

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5. PMS is real.

It’s not something that we make up in our heads. The fluctuation in hormones does so many things to us, most of which we can only work to minimize. Getting more irritable, crying at the drop of a hat, or getting pissed about something seemingly small aren’t excuses for us to act out of character. Not all the time at least. Sometimes, we are just as surprised by the mood swings as you are. And those cravings for chocolate, ice cream, and other sweet snack-time-goodness are not excuses to break the diet. Its like something comes over us that we can’t control. I wish I could explain it better.

6. Sometimes, we actually do want to learn about the game.

Or how to play the video game. If we ask you to teach us how to play or explain the rules, and you are mean about it, you will likely be making your life less enjoyable. Just humor us. We are trying to be interested in what you like.

7. We too have bodily functions.

I know its gross to think about, but we do. We burp, pass gas, and even make number twos. Get over it.

8. We don’t like to be told to “Relax,” “Calm down,” “Chill out,” or that “Its not that serious.”

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Any of the aforementioned words or phrases will likely upset us. And so will “defending” the person we think did us wrong. Whatever got us riled up in the first place clearly mattered to us, hence the raised voice, neck rollin’, animated hand gestures, and the tight facial expression. You telling us to chill or relax will warrant a response similar to this: “Don’t tell me how I should or should not feel. Stop minimizing my emotions.” Of course, there will be times when we will need a verbal shaking or a stern talking-to, but most of the time we just need to feel like we got our point across. Even if you aren’t really paying attention, look the part. She’ll think you’re all attentive and whatnot.

Okay, I’m done. I left the last two spots for yall to add to the list. Have fun with it.

My list-game is proppa,

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