In the wide world of relationships I happen to think that second chances are given a bad rap. Maybe the term “second chance” just doesn’t exude enough positivity in it’s nature. Today I want you think of people you’ve had “second go arounds” with. Today’s piece is about the upside of rekindling old flames. I want to first put this in the right context. I don’t condone rekindling flames of people who have wronged you, abused you, or  disrespected you. But to be fair, many relationships end amicably; no matter the nature. Sometimes you lose contact with someone. Other times it’s simply a decision made to pursue other goals or people.

In the latter situations, I think it’s perfectly fine to rekindle those flames. This post is geared toward a more intimate and sexual nature. I wanted to know if  any of you all could relate to a theory I have named myself. I call it the “2.0 theory.” What the 2.0 theory means is simple. In my experiences with some women, things seem to always be different in our second stint. Women who were more reserved when I was younger are way more daring now. There’s the ladies who were so against “sending pics” in the past who are now oh so generous.For the sake of some censorship I can’t get too graphic with some of the other changes I’ve seen. But let’s just say there are “reactions” that didn’t occur the first time around. Women who weren’t vocal at all about their needs in the past will now give you the play by play on what works for her. I think this is a beautiful thing.

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I personally love women who are confident in their sexuality and can articulate their needs. I also am a supporter of ladies not being too conservative with the right guy. I think behind closed doors  their shouldn’t be much inhibition. There should be a heck of a lot of fun to talk about after. But inhibition is like playing tag but staying on base the whole damn time. You always hated the one who just stayed on base the whole time… whack!

There’s a few discussion points I wanted to bring up. First off I wanted to know if you all have experienced things like what I aforementioned. Secondly what do you all feel bring about such sexual changes? I’m fascinated  about how we mature and the benefits we gain from it. Second and third stints can be so much fun if it happens organically. Today I say open your mind, have some fun and share your story. Does the 2.0 theory pertain to you?

DamnPops is a writer on the staff at SBM. His bio: “I’m not a biter, I’m a writer for myself and others. ” Brooklyn born dude trying to figure out this life just like you. Come on this journey with me. Follow me on Twitter @DamnPOPS 

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