Dr. J wrote a post answering the question Do Men Feel The Pressure Of Marriage As They Age for MadameNoire.com. In my opinion, the short answer is, “yes” but it is a far different and far less impactful type of pressure than women typically feel – from themselves and those around them. You can click the hyperlink above to read more on Dr. J’s response.

In the comment section of this post, I witnessed a familiar theme when it comes to this type of discussion. Namely, when women want to reject the societal expectation that marriage is the pathway of growth, maturity, stability, and happiness for everyone on Earth everywhere, they are often highly regarded as “strong, independent, doing them, living life” and a number of other positive adjectives of that nature. When a man rejects the societal expectation that he should eventually choose one woman, get married and have child(ren) he is highly regarded as…an asshole.

Don’t get me wrong, it is very possible that all men who choose not to marry one woman are in fact assholes. Stranger phenomena have happened; however, I would like to volunteer an alternative theory today. Although, relatively speaking, I believe men are fairly simple, they are still human beings and as such, like most human beings, they are multi-faceted. With this hypothesis in mind, I offer that most men are a combination of the following five personality types depending on a variety of factors, such as age, status, happiness, or time of the day, month, or year.

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If you’ve ever wondered how one man could be so sweet on Monday yet sleeping with your best friend on Friday, the following might answer your questions. In no particular order…

The Self-Centered  Asshole

His Motto: “The world is mine…”

The Self-Centered Asshole refuses to apologize for his actions, even when he’s wrong. As I said, it’s very possible that all highly-desired single men who have something to offer women within the confines of a committed relationship if only they would ever commit to any one woman are in fact assholes. There is a strong case for this to be true, because there is a large subset of men who are self-centered assholes. I’m not denying their existence. They definitely exist. I’m simply suggesting that they are not representative of the entire male species. Further, I would argue that just because a man is a self-centered asshole towards one woman, does not dictate how he acts towards all women nor does it dictate that he is incapable of being greater than a self-centered asshole towards another if he chooses. You see, despite their simplicity, most men are quite capable of adapting the type of man they choose to be based on the woman they are interacting with at the time. Often times, they choose to be the man that requires the least amount of effort. As a woman if you have found that Self-Centered Assholes are rather prolific in the population of men, perhaps not coincidentally, this is also the easiest personality for men to adapt because the only person you ever have to worry about is yourself.

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The Player

His Motto: “Replace, don’t chase…”

Women confuse players for bachelors every day of the week, but they are not one in the same. They are not even close. I’ll cover The Bachelor in more detail on page two, but the primary difference is The Player makes all attempts to avoid committed relationships, and he is not above lying to do so. In fact, he prefers superficial relationships and he always prefers to entertain the company of multiple women over any one woman; whereas, The Bachelor is open to and often looking for something above superficial, yet less rigorous than marriage (preferably with one woman). Sticking to the personality type at hand, in the mind of The Player—despite all evidence that might exist to the contrary—the only thing standing between him and *insert name of woman you deem extremely attractive here* are committed relationships. Every day he wakes up next to the same woman or each day he hasn’t successfully added a new woman to his rotation is viewed as a loss. If you’ve ever been in the midst of an argument with your man and at some point his eyes glazed over and he literally looked like he could not possibly care less about the conversation at hand, that’s The Player talking to his subconscious. The Player, with varying degrees of success, is always trying to convince your man that he “doesn’t need this shit.” To The Player, just outside the door is an ever-increasing population of 20-something women that he is allegedly missing out on. Most men grow to ignore this voice…some don’t.