It’s generally a well known fact that girls often are highly attracted to and often flock to those “icky” guys … you know, your thugs, a**holes, wife beaters and such.  What’s even worst is that nice guys really are finishing last.  A**holes are in high demand, while nice guys fight over the few girls looking for them.

I’ll admit that this is something that plagues mainly young girls (21 & under) as opposed to the sophisticated women that I adore (25 & up).  But you can often times catch your local 40 year olds still running around looking for a “roughneck”.

Back in college, I was talking to one of my fictitious female friends about this.  Now, this girl was a computer science major, smart, one of the few (if not only) cute black women who can code, and had nothing but potential n sh*.

She proceeded to tell me when it came to choosing a guy, they had to pass the “Alley Test”.  Intrigued, I asked her to elaborate.  She claimed for any guy to be deemed datable need to be able to walk down an alley with her at 3am and make her feel safe.

The tough part … the confusing part … the part that envoked rage was that “90% of the guys at our school didn’t cut it … they too smart n sh*”

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I sat there I just breathed.  I wonder if I had thrown a chair through her window as a result of being offended … would she have thought differently.

WTF.  Why is it a smart brother can’t fight?  I’m smart, and I used to fight all the time.  I’m 6 foot, over 200 lbs, and have been known to have a short fuse.  In addition, I got 2 degrees, do software development, and am a self-proclaimed “smart guy” .

TRUST … if we’re walking down an alley, you can grab onto to my shoulder and not be scared.

But really … what is more important.  That I can fight when need be, or that my life goals, career, and job can provide for me and you.  How many times are we going to be walking through an alley at 3am?  You need to be thinking how many times we’re gonna go out and you don’t want the credit card to not come back declined?

I mean, this was one person, but I have even read articles talking about the same thing.

Apparently a lot of Black Women rather have a man with some heat over a law degree.  So sad.

Is the alley test valid now?  Is that what its important?  Do we as men need to let it be known we’re ready to get the swinging instead of our ability to provide and love?

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Please … let me know

– SBM aka Not only will I hit you, but I’ll hack into your back account the day after

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