[A group of men huddled around discussing sports and stuff.]
Dr. J: And so as I was saying, don’t leave Miss Jenkins around me, I’d have her looking like a ceiling fan around this joint.
[Enters Miss Jenkins]
Dr. J: Hi Miss Jenkins…. When you gon’ let me hit that Miss Jenkins…
#thatfeltgood #fireworks
Now on a serious note, Miss Jenkins wrote a great piece about Thirsty Women on Three Ways and I read it and I was going to respond on Twitter, but then I thought I had too much to say and it warranted its own post.
I hate how women tend to blame all of their faults on men, I absolutely hate it. They will tell you that everything that’s wrong in the world has the word ‘men” in it. If she cheats on you, it was your fault because you weren’t spending enough time with her. The list continues, but this epidemic that is Thirsty Women has been caused by men. And I’ll tell you why; men love thirsty women. Men can eat thirsty women for breakfast, lunch and dinner. They love unsolicited support. They have one on the train in the morning, they have a few at work, they have them when they go out, when they are just hanging out, trust me… men love thirsty women.
Men like compliments…
Everyone wishes they had a Memphis Bleek in their life. And if Memphis Bleek looks like Amil, that’s a win for the home team. You have someone to tell you that your jokes are funny, that you are right, and that white socks are still sexy on a man. Men take that type of attention and run with it.
Men keep a couple women around as proof they don’t sleep with everyone…
“She want me to eff but I ain’t trying to, nah that’s just my friend.” They only say this to convince you that you can be their friend and they won’t try and tackle you. You will end up wondering why they maintain on this relationship so much. If a chick is crazy, you have to ask yourself why you’re friends with her.
Men ain’t never had no fans…
Home slice, has never had a fan in his life. Now a Memphis Bleek and a fan are different. A fan is the type of person who replies to your new avatar and says, “Just so you know, I think you have the sexiest lips EVER!!!” Men have the inexplicable ability to latch onto anything and convince themselves they have a fan. “Dog, she said I’m so mysterious.” #girlfriendssideeye
Men focus on their surroundings and footing, more than their ceiling…
A lot of people like to focus on what’s around them and below them so they don’t have to look up and realize they are not at the top. Thirsty women can come across as groupies or somebody in a worse position that you. Sometimes men keep these people around so they forget that there’s somebody over them who is doing it bigger and better.
Men aren’t that smart…
Men think it’s cool to have a bunch of women around them that are thirst, but it’s really not attractive to any of the women you really want to be talking to. Women peep who you surround yourself with and if you have a tendency to keep a bunch of skeezers around, it will hurt you. Women will think that you consider them skeezers when you approach them if that’s what you’re used to dating. Ever heard this, “If he found her attractive, then I hope he doesn’t think I’m anything like her.”
So in conclusion, yes there are a ton of thirsty women out here among us. But you are bound to catch some thirsty women at the water hole. If you have something they want and you are putting it out there, then thirsty women will show up. The only man who gives water that will cause you to never thirst is hay-soose himself, and so for the rest of us, if you offer water, thirsty women will show up.
Good post…i have nothing of worth to add!
Lol @ "Men aren't that smart…" Haaaaa. *points and laughs* You're not that smart!
And if every female that comments on this doesn't agree with that "Men aren't so smart" point,
just to be on the good side of the guys cuz you're a kiss ass, she's a thirst. [My fingers made me type that.] Lol =)[Don't kill the messenger lol]
Funny post! Good way to end a good night…
…But just for your information…
I like white socks on men. That's it.
Good night
Me too.
*makes note to stop by Target and replenish white sock drawer after work*
BTW, WTF is a Memphis Bleak? :0?
I'm glad someone else asked this, cuz I was gonna have to run to Google.
You guys dont know rap O_o.
Bleek was/is Jay=Z's sidekick who kind of just eggs him on and tells him he's great
@Peyso Sorry. I know who "he" is but didn't catch the reference. Kept wondering what's the correlation between thirsty women and wack rappers with no label deals???
Memphis Bleek is Jay-Z's yes man and hype man. Yes, he got a deal and dropped an album, his best hit was, "Do My" and if you've ever fist pumped in a club it was probably to this song. Back in the day, there was Jay-Z, Memphis Bleek, Ja Rule and then this random chick named Amil.
It was realy about Amil. Amil is the thirsty chick. I think she had Jay-Z bastard child and that's why she disappeared.
Ye Gods!
You don't even wanna know who I THOUGHT Memphis Bleek was..but, lets just say…smiles….I was thinking of the character from Mo' Better Blues…Bleek (Denzels character)…most embarrasing…lol.
I need to get up on my Hip Hop game.
That is all.
Well yes there are thirsty men and women in the social scene. There are ALSO thirsty men and women in the office and these may well be more dangerous than their counterparts at the clubs and watering holes. The thirsty men and women play politics, flatter the boss with unrequired attention/comments eg., boss says, "We need to get in front of this issue with the client." Thirsty man or woman—"Yes sir, you are soooo insightful!"
Yes thirsty people are all over the place and in all forms!
I agree but I disagree. Here's why: The parched folk gonna show up anyway. Even if no man ever showed interest in a thirsty broad then they would take other actions of men as signs of interest. They'd be like "Girl, did you see the way he ppicked up his brief case, its obvious he wants me". Thirstiness is a part of human nature and we need to realize that there will always be thirsty ppl and hell, we may have all had a thirsty time in our lives.
Lmao @ the briefcase comment Peyso.
& even though a part of me wants to agree w/ the "we've all had thirsty times in our lives" I'ont know that that's the validation Dr J was talking about. As Shubby said below, we all want to be validated sometimes… but the extreme level of non-quenched thirst going on nowadays… hmph… I believe that's what he was referring to, especially since he cited Miss Jenkins post. I can't okay these heiffas extra-ness b/c I (or we) at some point were looking for a normal level of validation. Nope. Can't. Won't.
#igotgatoradeforeverybody
I agree. I feel like the whole "thirsty" movement is about as overused as "swag." Can a ni&&a git p***y without being thirsty? 🙂
I mean everybody got different levels of sex drive. Different rules of engagement. Ay in some hoods it's "Only *** turn down P."
But anyway. Like he said. Errybody been thirsty at times. Das the dude or the chick you won't admit you slept wit.
(live from Lake Placid)
I don't think thirsty is as overused as swag. The thirst displayed online and in person is a helluva lot more obvious to me than a person who is feeling him/herself than a person trying to project that they feel him/herself.
Part of me wants to scream church…
But this post made me recognise that the thirst comes in many guises and it is real…the truth is the insecurities inherent in our human nature…in both that of women and men… are to blame for the thirst…it's all about attention…and needing to feel validated
Some people want to be claimed as great (even if it's unwarranted)… many just want to be recognised as someone of value…others just need to be wanted by somebody for whatever reason (even if it's the unhealthy kind)…it's all about not feeling alone in this world…
That thirst is real… but self worth needs to come from within…
p.s
Now when dr j talks about women that blame men for everything…I co-sign that completely…I want to sucker punch that excuse outta their heads cos it's got nothing to do with thirst…it's just the un-responsible being lame…again
This post took me forever to read…but it's human nature…thirsty is as thirsty does.
I agree with your points! I am sure I will have more to add later.
That is all.
#1 – I wear white socks. Wearing dress socks with kicks is strange to me. Dr J is a shoe-whore though, so i get that.
#2 – I think we have to be careful with calling women who give compliments "fans" (if that was meant to be derogatory). We sometimes criticize women for not being forward, for playing coy, etc. We give compliments all the time as men, does that make us fans? Not sure…
Other than that, this post is tabernacle.edu
dress socks with sneakers should be strange to everybody. jussaying.
I think they make black athletic socks, they make them in all colors. But if you wear white socks, or no socks for the caribbean massive with shoes to the club, you not pimpin'.
I agree with you to an extent on your follow up about fans though.
You fancy n*gga
lol
No excuse for no socks in the club. That's how you ruin shoes. Payless sells loafer socks form $1.50/pair. Makes it look like you have no socks.
There's really not much to add here. Well done, Doctor.
Wait, does that comment make me a fan? Just in case, #pause.
**confused**
that's why it took me forever to read the post as well Miss Jenkins…I've heard the term thirsty but apparently thirsty was used in a whole plethora of ways in this post and i kept trying to apply my idea of thirsty to the written blog and it wasn't quite fitting so then I had to go back and re-apply the term. (long ass sentence).
"If she cheats on you, it was your fault because you weren’t spending enough time with her."
I just wanted to point out that this is more commonly used in reference to when a man cheats on a woman.
Also, nice post. That is all.
umm no. when a man cheats on a woman it's usually because he's a sex starved animal who didn't care anything about his s/o's feelings. it's usually physical and he's just selfish. that's usually what they say. o_0
So… you're saying that it is rarely heard that a man is cheating because his girl isn't giving him enough head? Or, cooking his dinner? Or, bla bla bla? I could count the number of posts on this blog alone that imply that if you aren't holding it down, the man will find it elsewhere. I realize that the same is said in regards to women cheating, but I can't even keep track of how often this is heard in regards to the man cheating. I also personally know a large number of women who have felt that they are responsible for their man cheating and a lot of the time, the man is intentionally making her feeling that way. Also, men will straight tell the woman they're cheating with that their girl/wife aren't holding it down at home.
While you may be a great enough guy to recognize that when a person (man or woman) cheats, there is something wrong with the cheater, but not everybody is.
i'm saying when a woman cheats the first thing most people think is what the man do to make her cheat. when a man cheats he's just the a**hole who stepped out.
Ahh, okay I gotcha. That is usually the initial reaction. I do still think that once time goes by, it is still very often thought and said that the woman was lacking in some area and that's why he cheated. However, I get what you're saying.
sounds like some of the same reasons women keep 'nice guys who they'll never ever boink' around. lol.
good post.
and, you're right… i do think that if a man has certain types of women around him… that i certainly hope he isn't mistaken thinking i'm about to be that. lol
Ok, I had to come back to this because it hurt my head first go round.
I just want to add that *cough* some *cough* men like to keep thirsty ones around for simple entertainment. Yes, a large part of that is blowing up their already Kanye-sized head, but I've seen the thirst in action and even I am amused by it.
Also, there are a lot of men who either don't recognize the thirst or don't recognize what a big part they are playing in keeping it going. Also, these women tend to actually get quite a bit of attention from these men who claim to not be able to stand thirsty broads.
I can't say that I agree with women blaming everything on men, I mean I know there are a lot that do, but there are also a lot of men who do the same. I wouldn't say one is more likely to do it than the other.
I appreciate that you are calling men out on feeding into this behavior.
you are not slick… SANE!!!
I'm okay with the way you treat me though. Without Teflon around someone has to keep me honest.
Aww – *sniff*…am I… missed?
All I can say is…
Babies need a lot of stuff, man. A LOT! Tryna get this registry together and studying on how not to mangle my kids once I get them home is hard work, lol.
In the meantime, giving Dr. J a hard time has been added to Sane's duties of Goodwill Ambassador. Thanks for covering, Sane – you're so darn diplomatic.
speak on it!
Wouldn't be an epidemic if somebody wasn't passing the bug around.
i for one don't need thirsty chicks in my life. i don't need fans. i don't need my ego boosted anymore than it already is. thirsty chicks bother me. #thatisall
I'm going to have to start using #girlfriendsideeye
I can't argue with any of these points… but I'm not sure if I can agree with Peyso that thirst is human nature. I just don't know if I want to believe that, lol.
Finally reading post — been picking cotton all day.
You see now I'm all baffled…..
One minuteMEN talkin about how they want us to step up and be more aggressive in our approach when it comes to the whole Bait-n-Chase game but now THIS POST…….. #ican't
What you reggins want from a sista? *shrug*
Its actually quite simple. We want the same thing you want. We want women to be reasonable. Somewhere in the middle.
Women do similar sh*t all the time. Saying you want guys who are in touch w/ their emotions and then saying you dont want a guy to show to be too emotional and then you dont wanna guy who is going to let you get screamed at in the street but you dont want a guy who is gonna try for fight every Thomas, Richard and Harold. You simply want someone who is in the middle and reasonable
Okay, got it!!! That's all the validation I needed to keep doing it my way when I am interested in a dude. (No thirsty/fan type tactics here)
Make eye contact ONCE, Smile, Bat my Eyes/Eyelashes, turn my head coyly to the left side then tune him out…
IT WORKS TOO.
*lmao*
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