She will look this way at 60, and I'd STILL Holla!

We had a discussion on the blog last week in which a reader, Denise,  made the following comment concerning men and age:

Dudes….27 yrs old & cant find anyone ur own age? #ringsabell…..you’re wack! If you are a dude over 30 & not in a serious relationship/married…….there’s something wrong with u. trying to live out ur “playa” ways is not that attractive. and men after 35? not really that attractive. I cant stand old men tryin 2 holla at little girls #comeonson. Dudes always seem to think that they can get younger girls as the get older. Once you hit like 37……no one checkin for u son.

She claimed that older men who were at colleges to pick up wonder women were looked upon with the mean side-eye and clowned. I didn’t think this was always the case, and it sparked a mini-debate which I wanted to bring to the masses. Are men shunned for talking to younger women or looking for younger women? I say no and in fact, we have it better age-wise than woman! I think I’M BIG MEECH! LARRY HOOVER! these points sum it up well:

Physical FeaturesI read an article in GQ where they highlighted the new fascination society has with older men. Dudes like George Clooney, Denzel, and others were featured, and it’s crazy how these older men can pull women that dudes my age couldn’t. As men age, their features become more prominent and defined. Grey hair, pronounced characteristics all contribute to that mature, astute look that women love. Other qualities (listed below) tend to diminish the need for a excellent physical physique, as opposed to women. men are visual in nature, so they want to see an older women who still looks as good as a younger women, while having all the qualities that eclipse them like my future wife in the main picture

Status Symbols
I was amazed at ALL LEVELS OF SCHOOL when the girls/women in my age group would Wacka flock to older men. I would inquire, because I was hella nosey wanted to know why they didn’t date guys our age. I would get answers like “These guys got it together” “They’re cuter look like real men” “More mature” etc. There’s a big part of me I keep concealed that thinks these women were more susceptible to the #swindle from older men. They know the game. They’ve been where you’ve been, and know what to say and how to say it. They are living a time loop where they’re ahead of the time by reverting and living in the past. Never really heard about dudes going after older women, mostly because unless you were on another level of maturity, had looks for days, or ultimate game, older women weren’t checking for you. American Pie brought the older women pimp game to a new level with the adoption of “MILF”. Love that movie.

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Relationship/Children
Men mature and get more desirable to women as they get older. They live off experience, establish themselves socioeconomically, and attain that “grown men status” that make women swoon. They are more refined with age, and will have more experience. They are assumed to be in a stable financial position to be that provider. When it comes to children, men can procreate until they get a vasectomy a very late age, and don’t have the “biological clock syndrome” Women seem to have that magic time piece ticking within them that tells them to pop out some babies or they’re eggs will shrivel up and die. They also feel like past a certain age they aren’t desirable to men, or “can’t get married”, and feel pressure to make something happen. I never understood this phenomenon so if anyone can break it down I appreciate it. I actually love older women because they seem less about playing games and more matter-of-fact regarding their wants and desires. It doesn’t seem like men look at the same qualities women do when it comes to an advantageous relationship with women. We’re thinking more of the sugar momma route.

Mystique and Culture
In a lot of cultures, its the norm for Men to marry young. I damn near Willy Beamone’d when I calculated that my dad was 6 years older than my mother! It leads me to ponder whether it’s inherit within women to desire an older man. Also to date older for women is like an “accepted taboo” and actually applauded because “women are more mature than men”. On the other hand, I feel like Older women get the side-eye and “cougar” label for dating younger men. They look at the younger guy as a player and the older woman as robbing the cradle (unless you’re Demi and Kutch).

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So that’s my take. While older women appeal to most, I think it’s safe to say men win in this area more times than not. Let’s discuss!

This conversation will never get old,